3 Signs You’re In A Bad Relationship

1) He puts everything in his name.

He got me a car! Pretty amazing, right? And I didn’t have to worry about anything. He went ahead and got the car in his name. He didn’t want me to have to “deal with all that.” Everything seemed so sweet. But then when I was scared and wanted to get away, I realized the car was his. He could say I stole it. It wasn’t until it was too late that I realized he wasn’t taking care of me all this time. He was trapping me.

It then hit me how it wasn’t so sweet he just gave me cash here and there and showed me how I “didn’t need a bank account”. I wished I had savings when I was ready to leave.

2) He doesn’t encourage your dreams.

I was also told how I “didn’t need to go to school”. He would be there for me. This was all a lie. He was making sure I was so dependent on him that I could never leave. A boyfriend should encourage you if you want an education. Instead my self-worth was always put down, making me believe I couldn’t hack it at a nursing program.

Though math isn’t my best subject, a loving boyfriend would have said, “Brittney, if you want to pursue nursing, I will support you. I know math isn’t your best subject, but I’m sure you could get it with a little help. Don’t let that stand in your way.”

3) He treats your body like a toy.

Then I saw this over and over again with myself and with friends. A boyfriend would pressure us to bring another girl into the bedroom. It might start as a joke at first, but then he keeps bringing it up. Eventually it’s, “if you love me, you would want to please me sexually”.

No. Darling, precious girl reading this. If HE loved YOU he would not need another woman.

Maybe you gasp at the idea above, because you have a “Christian boyfriend”. He does the same thing if you’re in a bad relationship. If you’re in a bad relationship, your “Christian” boyfriend will pressure you to sleep with him. It’s the same thing, because he too is not honoring the precious woman God sees in you - a woman whose purity is supposed to be protected until a man is so in love with her he commits to spending the rest of his life with her. Some might say, “well I know my boyfriend is the one.”

Until he has MARRIED you, not just SAID he is going to marry you, he is not the one.

A boyfriend doesn’t just have to hurt you physically to do some serious damage. Don’t wait until he has you trapped to recognize warning signs. BUT if you do feel trapped and want out, get in touch with me or get in touch with one of these organizations.

If even that feels impossible, pray to Jesus - even if you’re not sure who he is. Trust me. He will make a way in the wilderness.